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The Power of the KISS…

The Power of the KISS…

(I read this article and I had to share it in My post today…)

‘…All I want is Your extra time and Your…KISS!’

-Prince ‘KISS’

The Hot Love Habit That Makes You Both Happier Experts say kissing more makes women feel happier. Men say it makes them feel loved. We challenged five women to just kiss more. The results? Fantastic. Learn more. By Ayana Byrd More from Redbook 10 Ways to Heat Up Your Love Life Foreplay Tips: The Moves Men Love Have the Hottest Sex of Your Life…with Your Husband 10 Ugly Truths About Men Unexpected Ways to Turn Him On Have you ever wondered why we kiss? It’s actually a strange way to spend your time — lips smooshed together, breath (good or bad) mingling, and let’s not even get into the tongue action. Yet we love it. We cheer when movie characters seal their happily-ever-afters with a smooch. A bodies-pressed-together kiss can make you remember why you adore the man who was annoying you just a minute ago. Why is that?

 “For some women, kissing is even more intimate than intercourse,” says REDBOOK contributing editor and ob/gyn Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., who devoted a whole chapter to the importance of kissing in her book What Your Mother Never Told You About S-E-X. “That deep level of connection you get when you lock lips and tongues is important.” Hutcherson isn’t just being a romantic — there’s science behind the power of kissing: It causes our bodies to release endorphins and oxytocin, hormones that help us feel happy and more attached. So it worries Hutcherson and other experts that kissing is one of the first things to dwindle when couples hit the long-term.

In a recent REDBOOK poll, 79 percent of readers said they don’t kiss their husbands nearly as much as they’d like; 14 percent said they’re lucky to do it once a day. Alise, a 41-year-old mother of two, admits that for months, “we were down to a peck in the morning, maybe not even that.” It wasn’t until she tried to figure out why the usual zing was missing from her marriage that she realized nothing had changed except that life had gotten in the way of their kissing. Hutcherson often prescribes smooches to patients like Alise, who are having sexual or relationship problems. “Getting back into the daily habit of kissing can rekindle a couple’s intimate connection,” she says. We rounded up some women to test her theory; Alise’s assignment was to plant a big fat one on her hubby at least once a day. “We’d been off it for so long that I was nervous about how he’d react,” she says. But after a week of making out more than they had since the honeymoon, she reports, “I swear we’re as giggly and as turned on as when we first met.”

Read on for five more experiments — and get ready to relearn the power of a kiss…

58 percent of readers… Don’t smooch their husbands as much as they used to 24 percent … Say they only kiss their partner as a lead-up to sex…

Experiment No. 1: A Total Kissing Switcheroo “I pride myself on being adventurous and creative in bed, but my kissing routine is, I have to admit, pretty boring,” Malikh, 29, told REDBOOK. “After four years of the same thing, I wondered if my husband was in the mood for something different.” She followed this advice from William Cane, author of The Art of Kissing,to shake things up. “Slide your mouth to his cheek and then his ear, then back to his mouth,” Cane said. “Also try different things with your hands, like rubbing his back, so it becomes a full-body experience.” Bingo! “My husband immediately went from his just-getting-home-from-work mood to being ready for action. Now I have it in my bag of tricks for when I want to initiate intimacy without just saying, ‘Hey, want to have sex?'”

Experiment No. 2: Making Over His Smooch Style Twenty-five percent of women in our poll said they’ve successfully made over a guy’s kissing style. That was welcome news for Zora,* 35. “My fiancé kisses like a junior high kid,” she said when we first spoke to her. “It’s lots of aggressive tongue-swirling, and I’m always wet around my mouth afterward — blech.” Sheril Kirshenbaum, author of the upcoming book The Science of Kissing, says that might be chalked up to man kissing versus woman kissing. “Research suggests that men may have an unconscious tendency to swap lots of spit because they transfer testosterone (which raises libido over time) to their mate through their saliva.” An interesting explanation, but it obviously wasn’t working for Zora. So to gently redirect her fiancé’s style, Cane suggested this fix: “Ask him to stand still and not kiss you back for one full minute while you kiss him the way you want to be kissed.” When Zora did, she couldn’t believe how quickly things improved. “I planted a slow, dry one with minimal tongue on him. Then I asked him to try to do the same back to me and, A-plus! He knows I adore him, so luckily his feelings weren’t hurt — and he hasn’t returned to his old ways.”

Experiment No. 3: All Kissing (No Sex!) for a Week Kissing had become a novelty for Audrey, 43, and her husband. “We’re affectionate but rarely kiss, even when we have sex,” she said. Bad move, Kirshenbaum says: “Whether a couple has been together for four months or 40 years, kissing promotes feelings of intimacy and security.” Did more kissing but no ba-da-bing make Audrey and her husband feel even closer? “On the first day we kissed big time, and it was hard not to jump in the sack, but surprisingly there was only one slip-up the whole week — our eighth anniversary came four days after I started the experiment, and I fell off the wagon. The sex was amazing, and it was hard to go back to abstinence after that. But doing this reminded us how much we love kissing, and the payoff was hot.”

Experiment No. 4: A Very Public Display of Affection “My husband always wants to make out in public — on the subway, in line at the market. What are we, teenagers?” says Sunny, 34. “It feels wrong to have people witnessing an intimate moment.” Cane’s advice: “The shared adrenaline rush that comes from an unexpected kiss can make a couple feel more bonded. Why not try it?” Sunny psyched herself up and did just that after a dinner date one night. “We stopped on a bench in Central Park and, surrounded by tons of people, I turned my properness meter off and open-mouth kissed him. I enjoyed it and realize now how many opportunities to be affectionate with him I’d been missing. I did, however, have to clarify my boundaries. After our little make-out session, he admitted that he’d almost grabbed my boob! Kissing, yes; groping, no.”

Experiment No. 5: Kissing More. WAY More. “My husband and I average one peck per week,” says Tara, 25. “First we had our daughter. Then we had our son. Kissing over. I miss those hourlong sessions we used to have.” But even one good smooch a day can “make you feel an elevated sense of well-being and closeness with your partner for hours,” Cane says. Tara put herself on a kiss-a-day diet to see if it would work and reported back.

This is Great! The Power of the KISS…Never underestimate it…

My Friend, are you KISSING the ONE in your Life enough?

If not…KISS them and ‘HEAT IT UP!’

-PM Bishop

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Posted by on January 21, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

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When Two…

-“When Two decide to jump into the Waters of LOVE, they should be akin to the falling waters that make up a Waterfall, allowing themselves to flow and Rush together into LOVE freely, Naturally and openly. Hand in Hand…Side by Side…”

-PM Bishop

 
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Posted by on April 26, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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Is There A Time?

Is There A Time?

 

“…Shall I tell Her…That She’s the Spring arriving on Wings. Shall I tell Her… I hear our Hearts are whispering and the Words I hear as She draws near. Shall I tell Her?…”

                                                                                    -Terence Trent D’Arby

                                                                                    ‘What Shall I Do’ (Emphasis Mine)

During AMAZING conversation this past weekend the topic of, ‘Is there a certain time that you gain feelings for another’ came up.’ Whether there is a time limit or set time that you begin to allow those feelings of ‘like’ or ‘love’ to be ushered to the forefront in a relationship. If there is a set time that you allow yourself to share or act on those feelings you have. This is a topic of conversation that I have shared with friends, other people in previous talks and there seemed to be various feelings or ideas about the topic. Here’s my take on it…

Yes, of course, we hear others say that they feel that you don’t allow certain feelings to come about too early or ‘prematurely’ in a relationship but how can this be a TRUTH? I agree that one may choose to not share what they are feeling or that they may choose to not act on the feelings that they have for another but I simply do not believe that one can control what they ‘feel.’ Feelings come in their own time. Infatuation comes in its own time. Like comes in its time. And, LOVE definitely comes when it wants to. We cannot control these, just like we cannot control the rotation of the Earth on its axis or the changing of the Seasons. It’s impossible no matter how hard we try.

We can sit back and say to ourselves or to others that we will not allow feelings to rear their head but all the while, as we are uttering these words the feelings are already there or they are rising up within. At this point we are only fooling ourselves if we are not facing these feelings. Lying to ourselves, not being ‘true’ to what would lead us to that HAPPINESS we seek.  

That thing called ‘FEAR’ plays a huge part in our not being true to what we feel. We allow ourselves to be ruled by fear whispering to us, ‘You know what happened in your past relationship(s)?’ ‘Don’t allow yourself to get hurt again.’ ‘Keep your wall and your guard up.’ ‘Don’t make the mistake of opening your Heart up to another.’ All of these can be warranted if you are only being watchful and cautious to make sure ALL is well with the person you feel for but allowing fear to keep you from what you want or allowing it to keep you from your Happiness is not right for us or the other person involved. We have to let go of those fears of hurt, pain and disappointment and simply face and follow our feelings, no matter how soon they take a place of residence within us. Allowing ourselves to be kept from what we feel for another will only cause us further pain and regret in the future due to our not acting on it. There is always a risks when we have feelings for another, want to start a relationship or we open our Hearts but that is how we find what we ALL want…LOVE.

When those feelings arise, whether it be a couple weeks, a month, some months or a year, face those feelings you have, take time for some careful consideration and then throw fear in to the Wind and jump into the Waters of the Ocean of Relationships and DROWN with the other person. Your feelings will lead you to your Happiness.

Don’t stop or hide what it is you feel for another, no matter how soon you feel it because…

“There Is No Specific Time to face or share your feelings… The time is ALWAYS NOW!

What do you feel?

 

 

-PM Bishop

 
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Posted by on April 13, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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At The Speed Of Sound…

At The Speed Of Sound…

The sound of the ticking of time catches my ear, as I look up at the clock to find that it has already passed me by. There was once a time when time was not akin to an airplane’s passing overhead, hearing the sound, as the airplane passes over and looking up into the Sky, only to find it’s entrails that have been left in its wake, along with the sound of its passing by. Following it’s entrails of smoke, after burn, you come to find that the plane is much farther ahead of the sound that you hear. In the case of the airplane’s passing overhead, you tend to be able to follow the entrails, like a path, that leads you in the direction that the airplane has gone. If only time was that way…

In the present day it seems as though time passes so very quickly. There seems to never be enough time to perform all of the tasks at hand during the day and there seems to never be enough time to get the rest we require during the night. We set out each morning with plans for the day, we get busy with those plans and time escapes us before we see those daily plans come to fruition. At night, we lay our heads down for rest and awaken to the daylight, it seems, as soon as we have settled in to sleep. We go about our lives, day to day, busy with work, family, schooling, friends and making future plans, only to look up and find that time has passed us by all too fast. Our work has become something we simply become accustomed to performing, our children have become teens, our family has grown and moved on, our friends have come and gone, we obtain degrees and diplomas and our future plans come and go as we look up and ask ourselves, “Where has the time gone? Time seems to pass us by so quickly…”

I can remember in days past, as a child, the days seeming to linger on and the nights seeming to stretch for hours. Time seeming to stand still. Now, as I’ve grown older, it seems as though the days and nights fly by like that airplane overhead. Time never standing still, only ticking at a quickened pace, beckoning to us to pause sometime and enjoy it, because if we don’t stop to enjoy the time we are given we will definitely miss it. It will have passed us by and even though we can hear it tick away, with the movement of the hands on the clock, there are no trails left behind by time for us to follow so that we can find where it has gone.

No matter what we may do in our lives, we should take the time to enjoy the moments we are given by GOD before they are gone. I have no idea if time is actually passing by faster or if there are so many things that have our attention in today’s World that we tend to miss time because we are simply too busy, but we all need to slow down and try to witness some of the time we are given. If we don’t, we’ll be looking to the Skies to remind us that time passes at the Speed of Sound.

Take the time to enjoy it before it’s gone…

 

 

Quote for the day:

“Nothing is more powerful that Beauty in a wicked World…”

                                                                                                                  -Amos Lee

 
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Posted by on March 9, 2010 in Uncategorized

 

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