How Happy Are You?
“Most people are about as happy as they make up their mind to be.”
A group of psychologists was studying the relationship between attitude and happiness in children. The researchers brought two children into their laboratory to be observed. One child was described as a playful, happy and positive little boy. The other boy was described as an unhappy, negative, mean and unadapted child. The scientists started the experiment by placing the unhappy little boy in a room filled with all of the most popular toys and video games. The boy went from toy to toy and game to game, playing with each one for a few minutes and then growing tired of them. After fifteen minutes of play the boy became bored and started to scream and yell, “These toys are terrible! Get me some fun ones.” Then the scientists placed the happy, positive little boy in a room filled with nothing but a pile of horse manure. As the scientists watched from the invisible side of a two-way mirror they were surprised to find the little boy smiling and excited as he exclaimed, “Oh, boy…There must be a pony somewhere!”
The above parable came to mind as I walked around at work on yesterday, noticing so many people walking around with smirks on their faces, or just plain out looking as if they were angry with the World, I wondered to myself, “Where are the smiles? Where are the happy people hiding? Is it really that bad?” As I continued on my trek, passing others, I thought to myself how sad it is that so many people walk around unhappy with life or unhappy with the World, not offering smiles or friendly ‘Hellos’ to those they meet, when what they should be doing is walking with a skip in their step, a SMILE on their face and a ‘How are you?’ on their lips.
In today’s society, with so many ‘unhappy’ people, in a World that thrives on misery, being unhappy seems to be the status quo for living. Happy stories do not sell newspapers, magazines or books and some of the most frequented shows and movies are those that offer ‘much’ drama or are ‘tear jerkers.’ I guess it takes a certain amount of courage and independence to be a happy person. To be happy in a World that worships sorrow is akin to heresy. People who are bent on unhappiness, misery or sorrow are very irritated by those who are happy. There are so many times that I hear individuals say that they hate being around happy people because it bothers them. Now, that to me seems to be backwards. I feel that it should be the other way around, vice-versa. It seems that one would seek to be near someone that is happy and uplifting so as to bring their spirits higher, not to be around someone that is just as miserable as they are. But, hey, misery does LOVE company.
I’ve faced the fact that, happiness is definitely threatening to a World founded on fear. Joy and happiness do not seem to be the norm today-but the norm of today is not natural and it is not how GOD meant for us to live or go about our lives. We seem to have gotten used to drama, pain, separation and unhappiness today but we will never be satisfied with it because it’s not GOD’s way. Our destiny is to live in happiness and contentment, with smiles on our faces and ‘Hellos’ on our lips, and we shouldn’t stop until we reach that place.
Think of the parable above… In it lies the secret of HAPPINESS in life:
*See the GOOD
*Find the GIFT
*Keep your mind on the brightest POSSIBILITIES
And ask yourself… “How HAPPY am I?”